"Les, I'll give the kids a bath and you finish the dishes and after we get the kids to bed lets just have some time to sit and talk for awhile."
I was really looking forward to the sitting and talking for awhile business. This sort of time is hard to come by on a Sunday during football season. According to Eric, everything occurs during its season, and the marriage cultivation season occurs June through August--or from after the buzzer signaling a winner in the NBA finals until the cannon sounds for the first kick-off of the Fightin' Texas Aggie football team . . . gig-em.
So I was looking forward to "talk time". Eric and I sat at the dinner table. He got out his Treo, I got a cup of hot tea and he began reading me his calendar. We went over the next weeks events, made a phone call or two to our friends to set up some times to meet during the week. Discussed what we might like to do for a date night. Talked about our goals for our small group. Decided to really commit to a time of prayer together each night--I watched him put that into his Treo as well. All the while I silently drummed my toes on the floor to keep from drumming my fingers on the table. I understood this stuff needed to be accomplished before we had our "talk time" but I was getting impatient.
Then Eric got up and turned on the TV. "What, THEY LOST! I CAN'T BELIEVE THEY LOST!"
I thought, is this our talk time? Did I miss it? Perhaps Eric forgot that we were going to have talk time. After all it is the off-season.
Anyway, I got distracted as well. I don't remember really what happened next. But the next night as we were getting ready to pray, Eric pulled out his notebook and said, "Okay, lets pray for . . . And then he began to rattle off from his list."
I had an epiphany. This IS talk time for Eric. We didn't miss it on Sunday, I just didn't recognize it.
I should be flattered. He talks to me, just like he talks to God--off of an action items list!
We both got a big kick out of our differences, and a new understanding of one another and God as well. It was an enlightening experience for all--and it occurred during football season.